spring cleaning.

right now my apartment is a mess. usually that's what happens. instead of putting away things little by little, my apartment explodes into a giant mess, the shrapnels of clothing and shards miscellaneous junk. i just realized i do the same thing emotionally.

lately, i've been doing some emotional spring cleaning of my own. i've been cutting people out of my life that i consider dead weight and/or not worth my time in an effort to convert a lot of grey areas into black and white. it feels kind of awesome, and once i got the hang of it, was surprisingly easy. there are those who i let go because i realized that i can't forgive everyone who hurt me, no matter how hard i try. and that's okay. or in some cases, i don't want to spend the time trying to 'get over' something. i shouldn't really be in that position in the first place. others made me realize that in today's economy, overinvesting turns out to have pretty awful consequences. previously i referred to this as 'going the extra mile for those who won't budge an inch.' it's time consuming, emotionally consuming, and overall unfair.

of course cutting off communication with someone doesn't always mean that you are cutting them out of your life. sometimes, ceasing to communicate with someone does just the opposite and you think about them anymore. human nature predicts that there are some people you just cannot let go of, and based on how much they meant to you and your level of drukeness, you are probably going to text them at the next upcoming holiday or inside joke that reminds you of them anyway. maybe not being able to let go of someone isn't really such a bad thing. or maybe it's completely and utterly unhealthy--i haven't figured that out yet, and probably won't by the end of this blog slash ever. but if i do, i'm sure the traction of this blog will grow significantly.

which leads me to my next point. de-facebooking? really? have we let 6th grade into social media? it makes sense to delete someone if you are making a genuine effort to cut them out of your life. if you are really committed to never communicating, or at least dedicated to trying not to communicate with someone, then by all means remove your virtual friendship too. but if you are simply in a fight, or angry, or are fully aware that it's a temporary circumstance, must we "de-facebook?" come on guys, lets face it. you're just going to stalk their away messages and ask your friend to monitor their wall anyway. so let it go. and really, if you are evaluating your friendship based on the most recently added bumper stickers, tagged photos, and virtual drinks that show up on your minifeed, your friendship may not have been all that strong to begin with.

unfortunately, my spring cleaning introduction was neither a creative/clever quip, it's very much a statement of fact.

guilty pleasure: my chemical romance. they suck SO bad. but sometimes, you're just not okay.

thanks greg.